October 26, 2022 no comments

We can read the books, newspapers, boards, labels, almost all printed materials. Can we read the unprinted? We use our mind to read the learned languages through the print. Can we use our mind to read the minds of other person? What is the print of the person that we can read. The reading cues are the tone and choice of words, emotions and body language of another person. The critical reading cue is empathy which cannot be ignored. Having a clear sense of what others think and feel can help us avoid conflict and miscommunication and strengthen personal relationships as well. But because of our own biases, cultural tendencies or situational factors, we can sometimes misread other people’s emotions. However, a greater knowledge of how others display their feelings, and, equally importantly, how our minds and bodies respond to the feelings of others, can help improve people-reading skills. Even then it can be hard to read others like when they put effort into covering up those feelings to avoid feeling as if they are burdening others or to avoid other’s advice. Research studies shows that expertise on reading others can be developed when we consciously focus on cues like facial features.  I have searched the three books which can help on reading others:

1.Mindreader: The New Science of Deciphering What People Really Think, What They Really Want, and Who They Really Are.

In this book, a leading lie-detection expert who instructs the FBI and other security agencies, noted psychotherapist David Lieberman, PhD, takes “people reading” to a whole new level. Drawing on the latest research in psycholinguistics—the cues embedded in spoken and written speech—he shows you how to apply his cutting-edge methods to countless everyday situations, including:

• Detecting the messaging behind passive language, personal or impersonal descriptions, and level of detail.
• Determining whether someone’s account of any incident is the truth or a work of fiction.
• Finding out whether a potential hire, dating app match, or new babysitter is trustworthy or hiding something.

This book helps us identify who can be trusted, and who may be out to get us.

2. Speaking in Thumbs: A Psychiatrist Decodes Your Relationship Texts So You Don’t Have To

This is an essential look at the love language of text, helping you decipher the personalities of online daters, the subtle signals from your romantic partner, and the red flags hiding in plain sight.

Speaking in Thumbs is a lively and indispensable guide to interpreting our most important medium of communication. Drawing from of-the-moment research and a treasure trove of real-life online dating chats, including her own, Winsberg helps you see past the surface and into the heart of the matter. What are the telltale signs of deception? How do we recognize pathology before it winds up at our front door? How can we draw out that important-but-sensitive piece of information – Do you want kids? Do you use drugs? Are you seeing someone else? – without sending a potential partner heading for the hills?

3.Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication

In this entertaining and accessible guide to the hidden language of cues, the Author, Vanessa Van Edwards teaches you how to convey power, trust, leadership, likability and charisma in every interaction. This book helps you learn :

Which vocal cues make you sound more confident
Which body language cues assert, 'I'm a leader, and here's why you should join me'
Which verbal cues to use in pitches, branding and emails to increase trust (and generate excitement about interacting with you)
Which visual cues you are sending in your profile pictures, clothing and professional brand

Whether you're pitching an investment, negotiating a job offer or having a tough conversation with a colleague, Cues can help you improve your relationships, express empathy and create meaningful connections with lasting impact.

Please share your experience on reading these books, what new things have you learned.  If you find other books than the above that can accelerate our learning for mind reading, please mention in the comment box, we will include and summarise about them in this post.